In the yoga and mindfulness world, there is a particular
type of meditation referred to as “Loving Kindness,” or “Metta.”
It is a mediation practice that is rooted in compassion and
love, and is usually guided by a script.
It asks you to send intentions of peace, safety, health, and love toward an individual,
a group of people, or the entire human race or the universe.
It is a wonderful
practice that I have begun to implement into my own personal life, as well as
into my work with caregivers. Part of why this resonates with me and the people
I work with, is because this type of meditation taps into the light that we
each have within, and sends that light and compassion out into the world.
This is something that as caregivers, we all intimately know. It taps into the warmth and light that we know can be so nourishing and necessary in this world when we activate that towards others. But what about activating that towars ourselves?
This is something that as caregivers, we all intimately know. It taps into the warmth and light that we know can be so nourishing and necessary in this world when we activate that towards others. But what about activating that towars ourselves?
In our work with self care, I like to start with visualizing
a person you are caring for. (Keep in mind that if you care for multiple
people, the first person who comes to mind is usually the exact person who
should. )
As you visualize this person, repeat the following
intentions silently to yourself with your eyes closed:
May you be free from inner and outer harm
and danger.
May you be safe and protected.
May you be free of mental
suffering or distress.
May you be happy.
May you be free of
physical pain and suffering.
May you be healthy and strong.
May you be able to live in
this world happily, peacefully, joyfully, with ease.
Next, think of a person whom you is very dear to you. It
might be a family member, it may be your child, or a grandparent figure. Who is
it that comes to mind when you think of love and warmth and closeness? The first
person who appears to you is usually the perfect one.
As you visualize this person, send the intentions silently:
May you be free from inner and outer harm
and danger.
May you be safe and protected.
May you be free of mental
suffering or distress.
May you be happy.
May you be free of
physical pain and suffering.
May you be healthy and strong.
May you be able to live in
this world happily, peacefully, joyfully, with ease.
For the last phase, I want you to hold onto those feelings and now visualize yourself. Speak directly to your own heart as you send those same, loving intentions to yourself.
May I be free from inner and outer harm
and danger.
May I be safe and protected.
May I be free of mental
suffering or distress.
May I be happy.
May I be free of physical
pain and suffering.
May I be healthy and strong.
May I be able to live in
this world happily, peacefully, joyfully, with ease.
Sit with that for a few minutes, and see how you feel.
Afterward, it is interesting to ask yourself:
- How was that last set of intentions?
-
Was it easier for you to send love and light to
another person you love than it was to send that same wish for love to
yourself?
If the answer is yes, you are not alone.
For so many of us, especially women, we have no problem seeing others as being worthy and deserving of safety, health, and love. We sacrifice our own well-being if it means making sure someone else feels that sense of safety and love. Yet, when it comes to ourselves, this concept may even feel foreign.
For so many of us, especially women, we have no problem seeing others as being worthy and deserving of safety, health, and love. We sacrifice our own well-being if it means making sure someone else feels that sense of safety and love. Yet, when it comes to ourselves, this concept may even feel foreign.
Traditionally, this meditation is done by sending the
intention to yourself first, followed by expanding the intention outward to
specific individuals, and ultimately to the universe.
But in a self care practice, I find that focusing on someone
who is dear to you first activates those feelings of compassion that caregivers easily
access toward others, making it a bit easier and perhaps more powerful when we shift
that light onto ourselves.
To all of you caregivers, who give tirelessly day-in and
day-out, consider taking a few moments today to spread some loving kindness to
yourself.
If you are interested in reading more about loving kindness meditation, "Loving Kindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness," By Sharon Salzberg is highly recommended!
If you are interested in reading more about loving kindness meditation, "Loving Kindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness," By Sharon Salzberg is highly recommended!